SHORT REPORT
“Real men” need keepsakes too:
both Italian men and women use inanimate objects to cope with separation
| 1 | SWPS University of Social Sciences and Humanities, Sopot, Poland |
| 2 | University of L’Aquila, L’Aquila, Italy |
CORRESPONDING AUTHOR
Aleksandra Niemyjska
Aleksandra Niemyjska, Ph.D., SWPS University of Social Sciences and Humanities, 16/20 Polna Str., 81-745 Sopot, Poland
Aleksandra Niemyjska, Ph.D., SWPS University of Social Sciences and Humanities, 16/20 Polna Str., 81-745 Sopot, Poland
Submission date: 2021-04-06
Final revision date: 2021-06-16
Acceptance date: 2021-06-28
Online publication date: 2021-07-28
Publication date: 2022-04-29
Current Issues in Personality Psychology 2023;11(1):39–47
KEYWORDS
TOPICS
the role of personality in interpersonal relations and social behaviorsindividual differencesquality of life and well beingthe interplay of culture and personality
ABSTRACT
Background:
Using tangible objects to alleviate distress contradicts the traditional masculinity that is stereotypically attributed to Italian men. This study tested whether the willingness to use a photograph of a romantic partner as a substitute for that person and as a cue for nostalgia in the situation of unavoidable separation depends on gender and conformity to the traditional masculine norms of Italian adults.
Participants and procedure:
The study involved 119 Italian adults. Participants were randomly assigned to the separation or the connection condition. Next, they described the willingness to use a photograph of their partner as a substitute and as a cue for nostalgia; then we measured men’s differences in their conformity to masculine norms.
Results:
We did not find support for the hypotheses that gender or traditional masculine norms impede using inanimate objects to regulate emotions.
Conclusions:
It is worth considering photographs as reminders of social bonds that are accessible for both men and women.
Using tangible objects to alleviate distress contradicts the traditional masculinity that is stereotypically attributed to Italian men. This study tested whether the willingness to use a photograph of a romantic partner as a substitute for that person and as a cue for nostalgia in the situation of unavoidable separation depends on gender and conformity to the traditional masculine norms of Italian adults.
Participants and procedure:
The study involved 119 Italian adults. Participants were randomly assigned to the separation or the connection condition. Next, they described the willingness to use a photograph of their partner as a substitute and as a cue for nostalgia; then we measured men’s differences in their conformity to masculine norms.
Results:
We did not find support for the hypotheses that gender or traditional masculine norms impede using inanimate objects to regulate emotions.
Conclusions:
It is worth considering photographs as reminders of social bonds that are accessible for both men and women.
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